The mental load

Jul 1

Today I want to chat about the mental load Carers (usually women) can carry.

The doctor’s appointment. The school form. the new uniform, Getting rid of the old one, The birthday present. Who’s low on socks? Who’s matching the socks? What’s for dinner. Is it healthy enough? Who needs support. Who needs sunscreen. Is it good enough? When to rest. When to re-book…

If you feel like your brain is juggling a thousand invisible tasks ~ you’re not alone. That’s called the mental load, and women or carers carry it, often without anyone noticing.

I notice it. I know. I’ve been there. And this is tough.

3 small but powerful ways to ease & share the load

1. Set up a Shared Calendar
Create a digital family calendar with clearly listed tasks, appointments, and reminders.
This is not just for organising your time, but for showing & communicating to your family or older kids what you’re holding. Then start delegating. Divide and conquer the tasks. Colour coding would be a great way to communicate who is responsible for each task.
~ Sharing the load starts with being seen.

2. Pick a Ritual That’s Just for You
It doesn’t have to be perfect. But it does have to be yours.
A 30-minute soak.

A walk in nature - no phone.

A moment with your gua-sha tool & no interruptions.

10 mins of mindfulness in the morning or evening (or both)

Add your self care time into the calendar!

Book in the 2 hours on a Tuesday evening- that is just about you.
No explanation. Just time for You.

3. Stop Over-Explaining
No. is a full sentence. You don’t have to justify your rest, your needs, or your boundaries.

I hope this feels like a good reminder, to look after yourself more, better, and with intention. If there are any tips you would like to share with our lovely community, let me know. I’d only be delighted to share.

Share love, share Atlantic sea wellness,

xx Kaz

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